Every person may go through a period in their life when they feel that it would have been better to be born the opposite sex. This is a natural feeling. The repeated humiliations, neglections, and rejections that a person suffers from the opposite sex (and unfortunately also from the same sex) during their upbringing can result in them hating their birth gender, or at least wishing they belonged to the other sex because... I'm not going to analyze the reasons here; many have done that before me.

I managed to fully accept my female gender when, due to my age, no one wanted anything from me as a woman anymore! If you want to go through this sooner and recognize the connections, then read on, because the processing can be accelerated.

At the beginning of their development, people look for external reference points comparing to them they are good or not, and what is good or not for them. Since it is rare to find useful external reference points (as e.g. parents, teachers, friends, partners), the already frustrated reference points become the standards. What can a woman see? The life of her mother of the other women around her were shitty; boys, men were idiots, her partner was selfish, etc. When, struggling with all these patterns, I found my own internal standard by which I measure myself, all my resentment towards others disappeared, and I turned towards them with complete acceptance and understanding. I experience the events of my life not as suffering, but as guidance, and I am even grateful because all of these have helped me to develop my personality and to become strong enough to shake off external influences that have become unnecessary. The general problem is therefore the lack of internal self-identification, and once this is found, the compulsions that drive a person to want to conform to some external female model disappear.

Without claiming completeness, why is it good to be a woman?

1. Because of the female way of thinking. I spent more time in company of men than in presence of women, and I learned the sequential, logical way of thinking of men, which enabled me to communicate successfully with them. But then I added my own, feminine, intuitive, random, and, to them, illogical approach, where everything is connected to everything else. And the two together have always been a resounding success.
2. For learning to let go of the results of my work. Women do a lot of activities that are not valued at all, such as e.g. housework. At work, they are given tasks that require time, patience, and repetitive, routine work. Just as Watson and Crick (the discoverers of the structure of DNA) worked together with a woman who made the groundwork for their Nobel Prize, whose name did not even appear in the articles, so the women are performing the donkey work which is necessary to prove the PRINCIPLE. However, in order to achieve enlightenment and salvation, it is essential to renounce the fruits of one's labor, which men are able to master through great suffering, as they insist on appreciation of their creations.
3. For the joy of giving and serving. Because what you give out is what you get back. Usually, you don't get it back from the person you gave it to. This is usually painful because you expect something in return, but when you let go of your expectations, everything you need starts flowing toward you from the universe in the most impossible ways you could never have imagined. For a long time, I experienced my life as a struggle, but looking back now, I can see how God carried me in the palm of His hand, showering me with countless miracles that I didn't even notice at that time.
4. For recognition of female powers and energies. One realizes that a woman's spiritual strength and endurance are many times greater than the man's. She can find a way out of even the most impossible situations. Millions of women bring up their children without men, in almost hopeless poverty; men go to war and women take their place in the workforce to sustain society. They may be crippled or raped, but they get up and continue to do their work. This overwhelming, renewing power is still available only for few women, but the more women learn to use it consciously, the more society will be transformed.
5. Because of their ability of reception. Women are capable to embrace men and children and living with them in loving unity. The experience of unity with a child is unlike anything else, because for a woman, a child is like a part of her own body. This "body part" is born and develops into an independent being, so that the woman is part of the miracle of creation, which is placed in her body, develops within her, and is born from her. Those who have developed the ability of inclusion can accept everything else in the same way. What my female disciples easily learn through their experience of unity with me, that is unavailing to explain to men, because they try to understand it with their minds, whereas the essence of God-realization is self-surrender (surrender of mind to God).

All these abilities are inherent in women, but these are not developed consciously; if women find the right female idea pattern and refill it on them, they progress quickly in their spiritual development. In addition to all this, receptive women are blessed with special divine grace; the feminine quality is held in high esteem in the spiritual dimensions. This is because men who have left earthly existence know exactly how much they owe to women.

Margaret Rhasoda Varga
UCCM head-master
2025. Budapest, Hungary