In this paper I will discuss sexual violence against women and ways to avoid it, but the conclusions will apply to both sexes. In this case, I do not intend to analyse the motives of the sexual rapist, let's just say that such people have always existed and are likely to exist, for the simple reason that beings are born on Earth to be perfected, i.e. this place is not a realm of immaculate saints. If one aspires to the latter place, one must evolve in that direction. 

Sexual desire is the second strongest instinct (after the instinct of existence), and the uncontrolled expression of sexual desire is subject to social norms and barriers, so there will always be those who will try to forcefully obtain the satisfaction they desire. The stronger the repression of this instinct in someone, the greater the chance that it will result in an unexpected moment in which a strong outburst will override their good judgment. The person then acts with switching off the mind consciousness completely, unconsciously activating a deep subconscious program and ignoring the consequences. This is not an excuse, just a fact. If we want to avoid victimhood, it is worthwhile to try an effort to know ourselves and others, so that we can be prepared for unexpected situations. 

In a significant proportion of cases, the violence is the result of the occasion, i.e. the perpetrator does not consciously prepare for it. Therefore, we should always try to avoid being put in a misunderstood or vulnerable situation.

1. Self-determination

Maintain good judgment in all situations (do not consume alcohol or drugs in such quantities that we are unaware of ourself). Before going anywhere with anyone, be clear about where we are going, for what purpose, for how long, who else will be present, what options we have for leaving if we do not want to stay. It is also a good idea to clarify at the outset what is out of the question for us in the circumstances. In summary, let us be clear about our intentions and where we draw the line in the situation. After that, we may not be asked out on a date, because most potential rapists are looking for the weak link, indecisive, vulnerable, impressionable women, and avoid conflict with those who know what they want.

2. Precautions

If you go out with strangers or new acquaintances, always have a trusted friend who you can tell who you are with and where you are going, and it is a good idea to discuss an emergency signal (e.g. ringing the person on the phone but saying nothing), which if given should be interpreted as a call for help.

3. Firmness and calmness

It should be based on that the perpetrator knows that he is doing the wrong thing and is therefore afraid, and that he is self-tuned, i.e. he cannot see beyond his own desire, but projects it onto the potential victim. In such cases, the person who remains calm will always be the one who controls. The acceptance of the victim's role (panic, screaming, lashing out, etc.) only serves to further irritate the perpetrator and, by trying to silence the victim, creates even more serious dangers. Temperate calm, on the other hand, can be very depressing for the other: e.g. You will see me neither suffer nor enjoy, I will bear with clenched teeth what you intend to do, what good is in that to you?

4. The expression of our creation ability

The female gender, called the weaker one, is in fact the stronger sex. This is not to be understood as physical strength, but mental strength. These abilities can be developed if one does not have them by default. Mental strength is the realisation that nothing can happen to us, against our will, or that we have not contributed to. The abuser has an idea in his mind of the role he wants us to play and we have the free will not to accept it. If he imagines that he will penetrate, we can imagine that he will fail. If we do not identify with his vision, we can override the creation of a mentally weaker person. The creative force is always degraded by fear, meaning that the one who is more afraid will be the loser in the situation.

5. Asking for help from higher dimensions

If one is in connection with the higher spheres, one can avoid subjecting oneself to violence, or if the experience is unavoidable, it will not have serious consequences. This person can always ask God and angels for help to escape from a distressing situation. For this, contact with angels can be mastered by anyone. However, if one does not believe in them, only her own power will be available here in the material world.

It is possible that the rapist is consciously preparing to attack, e.g. he may be observing out our way. For this reason, the above advice is supplemented by further suggestions.

6. Directing attention

If you are alone in a secluded place, always direct your attention to the surroundings (do not use headphones, which prevent you from seeing the outside world). If we are not immersed in ourselves, we will notice suspicious events in our surroundings: we may notice that we see the same person or vehicle more than once; we can sense danger and act in time to avoid it. If we encounter a suspicious person, we avoid their gaze, pulling our outgoing energies back into ourselves (a technique we teach at UCCM yoga school), making ourselves 'invisible' to the potential attacker. The aggressor is always looking for the least expected resistance, the easiest prey.

7. If the attack happens

If we see that we can neither run away nor defend ourselves, and there seems to be no other way to avoid the attack (e.g. in the case of obvious superiority or overwhelming force), the best way is to try to save our lives and to show cooperation. Never threaten the perpetrator that we will show him who we are and what the consequences of his actions will be. This is because he is not in possession of good judgment and the fear of being found out will encourage even more despicable acts. Instead of threatening, we should try to survive and be able to obtain evidence to identify him later, for example by scraping off pieces of skin with our fingernails.

8. After the attack

Try to get help as soon as possible. Do not be afraid of being disbelieved if you are not beaten half to death; violence can be proven even if it does not involve visible bodily harm. 

Never forget, violence can only be committed on our bodies and we are not identical with our bodies, our souls are eternal and inviolable! 

I would also like to give a few thoughts on domestic violence, the solution to which is much more complex. The first priority here is avoidance, i.e. never move in with someone who is suspected of being a drunkard or violent. If you do move in together, don't have children with him, and break off the relationship at the first opportunity. Because the violent partner attracts a similar type of person, we should not have a child with him, since we are reproducing violence-prone individuals by delivery. Because women who are impressionable, weak-willed, and generally fleeing from an aggressive parental environment are the ones who end up in this type of situation, they will not be able to exit the destructive relationship on their own. If you find yourself in this situation, seek outside help, build your escape route step by step in secret, and leave when it is already outlined, until then show the least resistance. In the long term, we should never give up on escaping from such a relationship, because not only our own fate but also that of our children will be determined by an aggressive family environment, and sooner or later it will inevitably end in tragedy, even death.

Margaret Rhasoda-Varga
UCCM head-master
(Without illusions, excerpt)