Every human being is on this earth to build the temple for his/her soul. Such body and intellect in which the soul feels comfortable and happy. To do this, we need time to put ourselves in order, to sort out our daily routines, to set priorities, to reconcile with ourselves and the world. It requires an inner work. If this process is not done, difficulties multiply, unhappiness increases and eventually symptoms of illness may appear.

The way to do this inner work has to be learned. We need to go to someone who can teach us how to do it most effectively. The process starts, the students (mostly women) are happy, feel they have found what they have been looking for. Finally, a balance can be struck between personal life, work and family. Every time they return home happy, smiling and speak enthusiastically about their new knowledge. But of course, they can't pass these on one in one, since they are still learning. And then unexpected difficulties arise and interrupt the success. This is the resistance of the environment (mostly the immediate family).

The family recognizes: mum is changed! Until now she always jumped when we had to make breakfast for example (dad, kids are grown humans by the way). Now she meditates. Something very strange is happening to her... What is, that she's taking a self-improvement course, she'll outgrow me, the man, and then what? I don't like it. She's ended up probably into some sect where they brainwashed her. We've got to do something. This can't go on. Last time, she left the dishes and referred to her me-time. Outrageous! And what's more, she seems happy, she's even smiling lately, instead of making dinner with a martyr's face, as she used to do. Maybe she's gone mad? What will be about us???? The family is falling apart! She wants to achieve her own aims instead of helping to achieve OUR goals. As she should live for us shouldn't she?

NO, my dears, mummy is not there to help you to achieve your ideas. But you are for that! Any assistance can only be imagined on a mutual basis in adult human relationships. But it seems that there are still those who think that women are toys, unpaid prostitutes, maids, domestic servants who are obliged to serve their children and husbands, and who, of course, only work to increase the family's income, which they are obliged to spend on their families. That she can have no vocation, no life, no occupation, no me-time. It was inconceivable to me that in the 21st century women would miss out on self-development courses because they were forced to give up by their husbands' indignation and recriminations, or because their children and parents were constantly making them feel guilty by their expectations.

After Ibsen's Nora (first published in 1879!), we might have thought that this chapter in the history of mankind had come to an end. But it seems that each one of us must fight her own battle for independence, for liberation, for a life of her own within the family. You may be sure that no male will help you to get rid of his domination. However, one deserves only that, what has fought for.

You are independent, unrepeatable, unique beings. You are equal and have equal rights to men, not only under human law but also under divine law. Do not give up your spiritual paths, because you were created for to find the way to Home (God) considering that the male is not seeking it or has not found it. You are supported by the feminine quality of God!

Margaret Rhasoda Varga
UCCM head-master
2025. Budapest, Hungary