In some decision-making situations, many people survey mistakenly the priorities that determine the quality of their life experience. The following set of criteria contains my suggestions based on an in-depth analysis of the human psyche, irrespective of any religious principles. The following need not be agreed with, and can be analyzed, but it is indisputable that those who correctly set priorities for themselves become happy, balanced and successful people.  

A suggested order of priorities for both sexes:

A/ Own spiritual development. This is in line with the first commandment of Jesus ("Love your God..."). This means us to love divine quality existing inside us, since this divine spark of soul has come to return to its own divine quality as soon as possible after countless experiences, understandings and recognitions on Earth. After that, however, the order of priority proposed for women and men is different.

For women:

B/ Maintaining, protecting and developing the partnership

C/ Careing for children with love

D/ Work for the benefit of home (i.e. housework) and society

E/ Caring for parents and relatives

F/ All other (other people, dogs, cats, etc.) 

Let's look at the reasons why. 

1) Female's energy is the sustainer of the universe, in this sense women are responsible for raising the next generation and through this for the maintenance of society. She can only do this in a stable and balanced partnership, and therefore needs to develop and maintain this partnership in order to be able to do all other activities successfully. If she does not have a suitable relationship, she will either not be able to undertake children or will be forced to raise them in a broken family, and she will be required to be a creator (male) in her social division of labor, which is not her own quality by definition.

2) Work is important for women in order to gain opportunities for development through independent experience, independently of their partner.

3) Because parents come after these, it is advisable for them to live a life in older age in such a way that they need their children least and only as a last resort, so as not to hinder their children's development.

For men:

B/ Work for the benefit of society

C/ Maintaining, protecting and developing the partnership (housework at home to help the partner)

D/ Careing for children with love

E/ Caring for parents, relatives

F/ All other (other people, dogs, cats, etc.) 

Let's look at the reasons why. 

1) Male energy is the creator in the universe. Through his activity will develop the earthly creation, the general well-being, he will provide the material goods for his family. He can only achieve this if the woman supports him with a stable family background. A woman who recognizes the essence of the female principle only enters into the role of creator (putting work before family) if she is forced to do so, e.g. if she is abandoned, cannot find a partner, is dissatisfied with her husband's creation.

2) For the man, the next element is the preservation of the partnership, since the whole family provides the most supportive environment for the development of children.

3) Raising children is a direct task for women (because of their ability to respond to the child's physical and emotional needs) and an indirect task for men (to create material wealth and become a role model), this is why it is ranked earlier for women than for men.

4) Parents are ranked fifth for both sexes, because for those who have started a family, their primary tasks are with their own family; their own family is their priority. This is in the interests of all generations, since if there are no offspring, the social division of labor will be disrupted and the care of the elderly will be jeopardized.

5) From the above, it is clear that the creation and care of offspring is not the highest priority for either sex. The reason for this is to be found in the aims of creation. The aim is to achieve progress and god-consciousness, and the obstacle of this is too many offspring. No religion has cleared up the misunderstanding that God said 'Multiply and populate the Earth'. God was forced to send mankind's ancestors out of Eden because they would have disrupted the order of creation by their unconscious and unrestrained reproduction. Thus, He created another plane of existence where man could experience the consequences of his unrestrained reproduction. The divine sentence is therefore rightly, 'Multiply and populate the Earth, not the EDEN'.  

6) In a society with healthy thinking, everyone knows that the interests of humans come before the interests of dogs, cats, etc., and does not spend their time fighting for the welfare of animals. However, if one takes point A/ seriously, one is also aware that mankind is not the possessor of the Earth and its goods, only the host, the beneficiary, and will have to give it back or pass it on at some point.

It is also possible to try out other ways of living according to other priorities; each one can, of his/her own free will, realize his/her own ideas. However, it would not be advisable for anyone to forget that every human being is a cell of the same organism, and for historical-cultural reasons we call this organism God. In our body, if a group of cells does not function according to the purpose of the whole organism, it will be excluded and become cancerous. Then that group of cells either learns to fit in, or eventually the whole organism dies. The similar thing happens in God's body in one exception. If mankind is a cancerous tumor on God's body, it will be cast out into the garbage heap (Earth) and there it can continue to multiply and after it completely depleted that, either it will fit into the divine order or it will eventually die.

Margaret Rhasoda Varga
UCCM head-master
2022. Budapest, Hungary